My Thinks On Polyamory
John Cornett - 3/22/2007

When you know who you are and you feel very strongly about something, and you know it is good, then you hold on to it and protect and nurture it with all your being.

I call myself Polyamorous..(no, not polygamist)..For short, I use the term Poly. Polyamory seems to me like a very natural way to love one another while thinking in a higher spirit of love. I think Jesus was and is Poly! Polyamory has also been referred to as legitimized non-monogamy. That is probably due to the fact that many Poly people are inclined to share the more intimate aspects of their love (less jealousy) with another "significant other" within their "closed circle," or their "intentional family."

Though many have tried over the years, I've noticed that naysayers usually fail to make Polyamory into something it is not. It's a safe bet that most Poly people do not condone nor tolerate indiscriminate and unsafe sexual behaviour . Instead, we prefer to advocate good, healthy, safe and considerate choices.

For Poly families to survive, we seem to agree on one indisputable and central theme; that our communications must rely on the vital concept of "impeccable honesty" within the existing relationship. In addition, I believe that in the real Poly spirit, we must also insist on the same level of honesty, openness and forthcoming nature when we reveal ourselves to others with whom we dare to invite to share our mindset. One driving desire that seems to resonate among most of us is the need to create and nurture lasting or "life-long" loving (though non-traditional) relationships or "families."(NO, it is not about communes either).

I've been a "Poly-Thinker" for as long as I can remember but didn't have a clue what was going on much less having some "label" to attach to the thinking. Then in 1998 I stumbled upon a single "word" that is used by many Polyamorous people to describe this feeling, thinking or mindset. It is best summarized as "the epitome of empathy" regarding intimate relationships between Polyamorous individuals. Apparently some one (or a group of people) created the "word" which I believe very accurately describes my mindset.

The word is "compersion."

If you are inclined to lean in the direction of the Poly mindset, do yourself a favor and research it out to determine if you agree with the essence of the terms Polyamory and Compersion. If you do, then share this site as a safe, friendly website where we might find fellowship and understanding. My hope is to share my views openly and honestly and potentially attract other loving souls who relate to the Polyamorous mindset.

This "is not" just about sex!!!! It "is"about boundless love, the way I think that GOD or whatever "Universal or Higher Powers" (depending on your personal belief system) intended. I am not particularly interested in ruffling anyone's feathers nor engaging in debate over the pros and cons of this mindset. Rather, I prefer to think of myself and other Poly folks as loving, compassionate and extremely "empathetic" children of a loving Higher Power (most of us anyway). I need all the love and support I can get for this gift of boundless love that I feel in my heart.

John